Fred Trump did not raise Donald Trump in isolation. All of his children were brought up within the same psychological environment: authoritarian, success-obsessed, emotionally withholding and openly contemptuous of weakness. Love was conditional and approval was earned. So Trump was not uniquely targeted. What made him different was how he adapted to this.
The pivotal figure here is Fred Trump Jr., Trump’s older brother. He was temperamentally different: he was reflective, emotionally open and less interested in domination. He wanted a different life.
The response from his father was: belittlement, withdrawal of approval and eventual ostracism. This led Fred Jr. to descend into alcoholism and an early death. Trump witnessed what happened to Fred Jr. and saw that resistance does not lead to freedom; it leads to death. Trump, therefore, did not submit to his father out of fear or passivity but out of calculation.
He recognised what the system rewarded and chose to embody it fully. Toughness, bravado, aggression and winning at all costs. In doing so, he did not merely comply with but over-identified with his father. He became louder, harsher and more extreme than his father.
Psychologically, this is known as “identification with the aggressor”. It is not weakness; it is a survival strategy that offers safety through imitation of power. The child adopts the worldview of the dominant figure completely.
So Trump was not manipulated in the conventional sense. He was not gullible, docile or suggestible. Instead, he was conditionable: quick to detect power dynamics, rewards and threats; and willing to remodel himself to dominate within them.
Fred Trump did not need to control Trump directly for long. Once the rules were internalised, external control became redundant. Approval followed dominance, dominance followed imitation and imitation became identity. The result is a man who appears fiercely independent, yet operates according to an internalised code he has never seriously questioned.
This upbringing produced a lasting psychological contradiction. Trump shows intense resistance to criticism, constraint or authority imposed from outside. Institutions, laws, norms; and even reality itself are treated as negotiable if they threaten his dominance.
At the same time, he remains deeply loyal to the internalised values of his father’s world: hierarchy, zero-sum thinking and contempt for vulnerability. That loyalty is invisible to him because it feels like self-hood rather than inheritance.
Trump was not moulded by manipulation alone, nor was he simply a victim of his upbringing. He was the child who “adapted perfectly” to a brutal value system and was rewarded for doing so.
And once that delivered power, protection and success, it never loosened its grip.